I know something about you. You carry an invisible bag of anxiety with you at all times. You never know when the contents will fall on the ground and spill, having you scurry in a panic to pick them up, avoiding everyone who’s a witness to it. At some random point in the day, you stop yourself in the middle of repetitive motions and realize just how unhappy you are. The kicker? You probably don’t even know why.Read More
At some point in our upbringing we started to believe that life was out of our control and that we had not much of a say in the things that happened to us. It probably stems from the fact that as children we were told certain things to do and had particular roles to abide by. If we wanted that candy, a feeling acted on through a longing inside us for it, our parents would say no. If we wanted to go outside at school, but we were told there is more to learn inside, we were made to feel we had no choice but to listen to our teachers. Especially if, when we came home, our parents would drill the same “listen and obey” mentality in us.Read More
I used to have huge anxiety. It was the worst before motherhood. My limbs would become restless and my chest beating so hard would feel bruised. Every traditional goal I hit that should’ve made me feel happy, like losing 30 lbs, finishing various degrees/diplomas, or buying my own place never filled the hole I felt in my heart. Even with a wonderful family and partner I hid inside more often than I admitted to back then.Read More
When we're pregnant we assume everything will come to us naturally once that baby arrives. After all, we have ovaries for a reason - and biology's intent can't be to throw us into the woes of something completely contrary to the course of nature. Right? You know where I'm going with this. The fact is...being a parent carries with it a hard learning curve. You don't find your groove overnight and unfortunately, society has got it all wrong implying you need to have your sh*t together right as that baby makes its presence known.
Especially when you throw sleep deprivation into the mix - which people rarely like to admit they're experiencing.Read More
We've heard it all before - once a woman brings children into the world, they become her number 1 priority, whether that's a conscious choice or not. Even those of us who have a good grip on morning routines will find ourselves at the bottom of the totem pole more often than not. We eat last, we usually have our coffee cold, and if we manage to somehow sneak in a shower, we'll still end up leaving the house with damp hair. So what is a modern mom, who would love some time for herself, to do?Read More
Always having been an avid book worm myself, I never doubted my kids wouldn't also be obsessed with books. After all, certain hereditary things are just completely unavoidable. When I was pregnant with my first, I daydreamed about introducing my kids to my favourite classics, like Anna Karenina or my favourite poetry Gods E.E. Cummings, Leonard Cohen and the like. Little did I know it would be quite a while until they'd be ready for that kind of content.Read More
You all knew this kind of post was coming sooner or later. If you recall, I reflected really deeply (and sarcastically) on my experience after having just one baby, so it's only natural for me to want to share how life has been in our home since we added a new member to the fam-jam. That second baby is going to be 1 in just a couple of months (GASP!) and the entire 2 under 2 experience has given me a completely new appreciation for peeing in solitude. If I thought it was next to impossible with one child, it's literally not going to happen now until they're both out of my house - so maybe for like 30 years?Read More
As I sit here and write this, I'm not sure what's more shocking - the fact that I'll be returning to work soon (and with that, will be away from baby 8 hours a day) or the fact that I've managed to exclusively breastfeed her for 9 months now - and going strong.
"The days are long but the years are short", they say, and never has this motto resonated with me more than right now, as we've begun our newest adventure - WE'RE (PARTIALLY) WEANING!
My son Dominik was the kind of baby that was always in motion. He was my first - so naturally, I was more naive to what I was reading in my childbirth books and being told was proper (or my least favourite word, typical). Being a new mama also meant that I felt pressured to breastfeed him - and after a long 6 months of crying and chaos (between both babe and I), trying to have him latch properly - plus pumping when I couldn't - I finally stopped. I made the firm choice to try something else - because I've learned there is no general right or wrong in the parenting world, only what's right for your family.Read More
The day has come - s/he FINALLY put a ring on it and your head is swimming in a blissful sea of romantic ideas for your big day. As with any new project, the first thing that comes to our mind is what OTHERS have done in a similar stage of life.
It's no secret that the typical wedding includes one or all of these things:
Here it is - the one parents who are bombarded with random toys have been waiting for - and the one that those without kids need to get what toddlers are all about - the Toddler Holiday Gift Guide! In good fashion I am posting this DAYS before Christmas to ease panic amongst those wondering HOW in the world or rather WHAT to get those picky 2-4 year olds in your life. I myself am not a celebrator of Christmas, but I was raised celebrating the New Year, and we essentially did all of our present exchange on New Years Eve. Regardless...the kiddos do get gifts, so I have put together my picks for the year here. In our house we're big on cycling through toys and play things so that our kids don't get bored of all things at once. We keep a stack of them in the basement and try to switch toys housed in our living room bins every 4 weeks.Read More
Only a small amount of women out there will not experience the vast heaviness motherhood brings with it. The physical heaviness of holding a baby close to you - and the literal weight you have on your shoulders as you organize your family's life. While it’s true that some little girls are simply born to birth and genuinely become mothers without complaint - most of us will have a hard time transitioning - at one point or another.Read More
While a pregnancy is really about growing a child, we often forget about the person who works hardest to bring baby into this world - and that is MOM! Having a child is the most transformative journey one can have and to ease the transition into motherhood, I've compiled some of my favourite items to gift new, existing and all cherished moms in your world.Read More
As a safe childbirth and conscious parenting advocate, one of my biggest goals is to raise awareness to seemingly innocent things around your house that are making you and your children sick.
Not the type of sick where you're suddenly hurled over your toilet bowl or have the highest fever imaginable, no. The type of sick I'm talking about is slow in its onset - it may be a feeling of lethargy, a breakout on your skin, a dry cough that just won't leave you be. It manifest itself in little runny noses of your kids, mysterious rashes, asthma and eczema flare-ups that you just tell yourself are all part of "the seasonal change" or something the kids ate. It manifests itself in fertility issues and low sperm-count. It remains with you even after you may have altered your diet and eat as well as you can.Read More
With both of my pregnancies, I gained about 35 pounds and after my second baby, the weight definitely stuck with me a bit longer. Today I want to explain to you how I managed to maintain and improve my body after both children - it does require a little bit of planning when it comes to your meals, but you don't need to start an intense physical regiment or bodybuilding routine. Having recommended the following to many of the moms I work with I can truly say, you will see your bloat and weight drop, despite genetics, unless you have underlying medical issues. I believe in keeping it simple and giving yourself time - after all, you grew a child for almost 10 months and your body often needs the same time to heal and catch up on some rest. There is no quick fix. We all know that the postpartum period robs you of sleep and unfortunately, your body and weight cannot be at prime without adequate REM time. Don't be hard on yourself and trust that it's a journey.Read More
If one gave me the time of day and cushioned it with prepared meals and adequate rest, I could truly write a novel on what life has been like in the past 4 months. Life doesn't work this way, though, and here I am to bring you the most vital point - my home birth with Mila. This was my second child and I made such a serious attempt to focus on her in the first month, that my "plans" for this blog took a break. Can you picture me fighting innerly with myself - guilty to have not given you some content to read up until now, and yet proud that I followed through with my promise to enjoy the immediate postpartum period - THE most important period of pregnancy, birth and the entire antenatal rollercoaster? Sigh. Mom guilt really never stops - even when we consciously try our best to curb it.Read More
I'm 3 days away from our estimated due date for baby #2 and the countdown is on in more ways than one. We've been in our new home shy of 4 weeks and have gotten through most cardboard boxes, putting together furniture, ensuring our groceries still get done, and getting loose ends tied up with help of online shopping (a biggie for me at this stage in pregnancy). It is important to me to explain how we've prepared differently for this baby as opposed to our first - but to get down to the real gritty details, I will save the comparison for another post. In a nutshell, the baby's room is so far from finished and is our last priority at the moment. This current post is going to explore my perspective on how baby will arrive in this world, how my view on labour has changed since my first delivery 2 years ago, and what my hopes are for this upcoming birth-day.Read More
This blog entry serves as my pause during the current, continuous motion that has taken over our household and will continue to do so in the next upcoming weeks. I had made several outlines on what type of entries to share with you on this blog - but I find that the nature of my writing has always been more honest and more apparent during times I spontaneously decide to share my thoughts - with no preset points to make. I feel it will be both more cathartic for me and more insightful for you as a reader.Read More
Somewhere in my distant memory, before I was a wife and a mother, I recall people talking about the dip in intimacy couples go through after marriage. Other articles I read had even stronger convictions: the two main culprits that allow your relationship to dissipate are money and children. I never understood the extent to which these milestones - marriage and children - could have on two people. I viewed these statistics as loose and negative - surely, divorces happen because people are seeking more out of life than what is given to them. But how could the same adorable, little beings you made through an act of love, end up tearing you apart?Read More
It's a common occurrence - I'm out in public and 80% of the time with my child. I'm at home and, yes, you guessed right - 80% of that time is also spent with my child. The more you do of a certain something, the more that activity or time defines you - whether you like to admit it or not. We flock to certain friends because we feel a certain familiarity in their presence and we, most likely, also enjoy many of the same jokes, food, and lifestyles in general. So, going by the above - once we have our first child, we ultimately become a mother. Even for individuals who end up deciding that mothering is not for them (going on to put children up for adoption or leaving their child with family/the father/etc) - the giving of birth will always define you in some way as a mother.Read More